its just decisions are never easy

Last February 4, I hosted an outreach program sponsored by our college (by the way, I am teaching in CEU). This seminar taught parents from our adopted community (somewhere in Longos, Malolos), about parenting styles.

Though I am not yet a parent, I learned much in the event, that I consider advance lessons.

Mostly mentioned are words autocratic or kind of authoritative parent which leads to a child's inferiority complex, permissive which is the contrary, this allows a child to control over all situations, and last is democratic, boldly, the best choice for its balance. My parents have combined three styles, I must say. We grew up with fear doing the wrongs, and confidence doing the right ones. So I guess its effective.

But I am not really from a perfect family, my younger sister got pregnant at age 18. Very young. Her husband (they are still together, on and off, but now stronger for almost 8 years) is just like my sister's age, but he is the catch of the story. He came from a family which he found not his very own blood. So much a drama, his parents are both working abroad, he grew up without them. Such a complicated life that led to my sister's comfort. And everything happened. They have two beautiful children now. My parents are immeasurably happy.

In that case I mentioned, I do not know why parenting styles did not succeed. On the one hand, its a failure. On the other hand, blessings.

Similar to another drama I know, a guy who engaged himself in a relationship because of unwanted pregnancy. (but there are other reasons now) The parents of the guy are abroad - but the parents are just close to perfection. It did not turn out well again.

Plus a friend of mine, who has a perfect life, she almost got everything she wanted except for the man she truly  loves (very common), she is abroad - carrying a life in her womb - again to a man she has little affection with. But she is happy. She will be happier.

The point is, sometimes, circumstances are not controlled by such model parenting styles. The fact is, it is not really applied when the going gets tough. Yes, we have guidelines, for us to avoid mistakes and the likes - but it keeps happening, failure keeps coming in. Failures are from decisions. Decisions are from people involved. Poor decisions are from one individual. Unsuccessful decisions lead to a miserable present. Miserable present can be a good present, if poor decisions made are realized and worked out.

My sister, my guy friend and my girl friend are imperfect individuals, they made wrong decisions, they realized, now they are trying to work out to make everything better.

We would always aim to do the goods, without thinking of others, sensitivity is a great foundation of every decisions we make. Why do we still fail? Its just decisions are never easy. The results will make things better or worse. Go on.